Zusammenfassung der Ressource
Interpersonal relationships
- Starting
- I'm gonna tell an anecdote
- What would you do if your best friend acts uncaringly to your problems, even though you have
always been all ears to his concerns?
- Content 1.
- I'm going to say some of the plans some friends told me and describe the way I handled them
- Stop being his friend.
- I Can't do that....
- YES, KENET, YOU'RE THE VICTIM HERE
- That's right, he never wanted to be your friend, he's just a parasyte
- Do you remember when he didn't wanted to help you that time?
- -Yes, he did it several times, indeed...
- Now, he HATES you!
- Talk to him.
- NO, he will avoid my problems just like before!
- Yeah, Talking is an option, but he won't listen to me
- Kenet, stop being that paranoid.
- Am I?
- Should I stop worrying about that?
- I'm the problem here, mate...
- You're wrong, maybe he's not well, and you should help him instead
- Maybe he's the victim here, and I'm just crying about my feelings and ignoring he's reality
- I'm such a MONSTER, I DON'T EVEN DESERVE HIM
- I'm not the one you shoud ask, talk to your parents
- They would say parent's stuff, they won't understand me
- Calm down, you TOXIC!
- Toxic!? I'm such a horrible thing?
- Content 1.1
- I'm going to introduce the concept of Toxicity, say what does it means
- a toxic relationship, is the one where does exists some attachments, but the way it developps, hurts (somehow) both partners
- Content 1.2
- Now, im going to match that definition with my case; that is, i'm going to say the main idea
- Yes, I'am Toxic
- But i'm not a monster, I still love my best friend, but I kinda silly interacting with him.
- The main idea
- I'm going to say how that last thing, is the key to starting struggling Toxicity; saying, on the way in, the reasons why Toxicity happens
- Toxic people don't want to be like that; they are preys of the confunsion and the inability of handling correctly, the inputs and outputs in our mind, it's a wrong habit we must fix
- content 2
- I'm going to say, how am I struggling against that habit that means being toxic
- The most important step is to recognize the habit; having done this, it's easier to get some help (easier to us).
- I went to the psychologist
- asking to my best friend if i'm doing it well and if he doesn't feel bad regard my actions
- Talked to my mom
- Ending
- Im going to summarize what i said
- STOP LOOKING AT TOXIC PEOPLE AS MONSTERS