HARBOR /ˈhɑrbɚ/ to keep or hold in the mind; (transitive) to maintain secretly: to harbour a grudge.
Ex: if you harbor resentment, you are hurting yourself

PRONE /proʊn/
adj.
[be + ~ + to] having a natural tendency toward something;
disposed;
liable;
likely to suffer from:
EX: Some people are PRONE to anger....

GRIEVANCE /ˈgriːvəns/ a wrong or unjust act considered as grounds for complaint.
[uncountable] a complaint:
EX: When you do need to discuss a GRIEVANCE...

MINIMIZE /ˈmɪnɪmaɪz/
EX: To forgive doesn't require to MINIMIZE the offense

SLAP: /slæp/ a sharp blow or smack, esp. with the open hand:
Ex: ... SLAPPING yourself

TO BE UNDER SURVEILLANCE: /s3ːˈveɪləns/a watch kept over someone or something, esp. over a suspect, prisoner, etc.: