1. Occur up to

...when

2. Things become public when

... by
(hint: social processes)

3. When relationship is finished, both partners attempt to...

They do this in order to...

This is the desired attributes for future relationships, called

4. Grave dressing may involve

e.g. as irresponsible when they once saw them as

... or seen as arrogant when

so basically you reinvent them as