Changing the way you learn

Question	Answer
Initiating	Trying to be likable
Experimenting	Small talk, trying to find out more things about a person
Intensifying	Telling secrets, "we", informal address, private symbols, verbal shortcuts
Integrating	Engage in coupling: becoming one another
Bonding	A public ritual that announces commitment, marriage, partnership
Differentiating	Start to undo coupling, "I", individual differences come into focus
Circumscribing	Quantity and quality of communication start to degrade, decreases in depth and breadth of communication
Stagnating	No topic of substance is discussed, may engage in imagined interactions
Avoiding	Individual tries to physically avoid their partner, disengagement, cognitive dissociation
Terminating	End of relationship
Overhelping	Helping someone so that you get credit for their success
Sandbanging	Pretending to be weaker than you actually are to mislead your opponent
Symmetrical relationship	Each partner exchanges the same sort of behavior with the other
Complementary relationship	Partners exchanges different or complementary sorts of behavior
Self-fulfilling prophecy	What you think gradually becomes how others behave and thus reinforces what you think

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