Meg Jay

Meg Jay

1. Why 30 is not the new 20

   • claiming your 20's is one of the simplest, yet most transformative, things you can do for work, for love, for happiness
   • 8 out of 10 decisions, experiences & aha-moments that make your life what it is, will have happened by your mid-30's
   • brain rewires itself for adulthood, personality changes more than at any other moment in life
     • 20's are the time to educate yourself about your body and options
       • critical period of adult development
   • 3 things every twenty something deserves to hear:
     • 1. get identity capital: do something that adds value to who you are
       • do something that's an investment in who you might want to be next
         • explore work & make it count
     • 2. The urban tribe = overrated
       • the best things come from outside of the inner circle
         • "weak ties"
     • 3. "you can't pick your family, but you can pick your friends"
       • this is true growing up, but as a twentysomething, you will soon pick your family
         • the best time to work on your marriage is before you have one
   • "30 is not the new 20, so claim your adulthood, get some identity capital, use your weak ties, pick your family. Don't be defined by what you didn't know or didn't do. You're deciding your life right now.