IPC: 2. COM and personal ID

IPC: 2. COM and personal ID

1. A. WHAT IS THE SELF? p.40

   • the self
     • 1A. arises in COM w/ others p.40
     • 9A. is multidimentional p.50
     • 11A. is a process p.51
       • ego boundaries
         • def: an idvdl's perception of where he/she stops and the rest of the world begins
   • COM in everyday life--
     • diversity:
       • 3A. what is the self? p.41
       • 4A. the role of fathers in socializing children p.43
       • 6A. construction of race p.48
       • 7A. david and brenda p.49
       • 10A. social comparison p.51
     • career:
       • 8A. torn between two worlds p.50
   • 2A. particular others p.40
     • a. direct definition
       • direct def
         • def: COM that explicitly tells us who we are by specifically labeling us and reacting to our behaviors. usually 1st occurs in families, then in interaction w/ peers and others
     • b. reflected appraisal
       • reflected appraisal
         • def: process of seeing and thinking about ourselves in terms of appraisals of us that others reflect
       • self-fulfilling prophecies
         • def: acting in a way that embodies expectations/judgements about us
     • c. ID scripts
       • ID scripts
         • def: guide to action based on rules for living and ID. at 1st comm in fam, ID scripts define roles, how we are to play them, & basic elements in plots of our lives *not the same as script, 1 of 4 cognitive schemata
     • d. attachment styles
       • attachment styles
         • def: pattern of relating instilled  by way a caregiver teaches child who he/she is, who others are, & how to approach relationships
         • secure
           • def: mode of relating that involves cnfdnce in 1self & in rltnshps; like other AS, instilled by caregiver who responds in a consistently attentive, loving way to a child; most common and most + of 4 AS; ppl w/ secure AS tend to be comfortable forming close bonds
         • fearful
           • def: mode of relating instilled by caregiver in 1st relationship, (usually parent-child) who comm to child in consistently negative, rejecting, or abusive ways; ppl w/ fearful AS tend to feel apprehensive, insecure about relationships
         • dismissive
           • def: mode of relating (instilled early by a disinterested, rejecting , or abusive caregiver) in which the indvdl later tends to dismiss others as unworthy and does not seek close relationships; unlike ppl w/ fearful AS, dismissive AS don't accept caregvier's view of them as unlovable
         • anxious/ambivalent
           • def: mode of relating/attachment style characterized by preoccupation w/ relationships and inconsistent behavior toward the partner; develops in childhood when caregiver behaves inconsistently toward a child (both loving and rejecting/neglectful)
     • particular others
       • def: 1 source of social perspectives that ppl use to define themselves and guide how they think, act, and feel; ppl who are esp. important to self
   • 5A. broadly held social views p.47
     • generalized other
       • def: 1 source of social perspectives that ppl use to define themselves and guide how they think, act and feel; our perception of views, values, and perspectives that are endorsed by society as a whole
     • a. race
     • b. gender
     • c. social orientation
     • d. socioecon class
   • 12A. social perspectives are subject to change p.51
     • a. socially constructed views
     • b. variable social views
   • self
     • def: a multidimensional process of internalizing and acting from social perspectives

2. B. GUIDELINES FOR IMPROVING SELF-CONCEPT p.53

   • 1B. make p.53
     • a firm commitment to
   • 2B. gain & use p.53
     • knowledge to support
       • personal growth
         • self-disclosure
           • def: act of revealing pers info about ourselves that others are unlikely to discover in other ways
         • Johari Window
           • def: developed in 1969 by joseph luft and harry ingham; model of diff types of knowledge that affect self-dev
   • 3B. set p.55
     • goals that are realistic and fair
   • 4B. COM in everyday life-- p.56
     • insight:
       • if at first you don't succeed
   • 5B. seek p.57
     • contexts that support pers change
       • self-sabotage
         • def: self-talk that comm that we are no good, that we can't do something, that we can't change, & so forth; self-sabotage undermines our belief in  ourselves & motivation to change & grow

3. ch 2 summary p.58

   • case study: continuing the conversation p.59
   • IP assessment & action p.60
   • engage ideas p.60
   • key concepts p.60
     • - anxious/ambivalent attachment style 46 -attachment styles 45 -direct def 41 -dismissive attachment style 46 -ego boundaries 51 -fearful attachment style 45 -generalized other 47 -ID scripts 47 -Johari Window 54 -particular others 40 +reflected appraisal 42 -secure attachment style 45 -self 40 -self-disclosure 54 -self-fulfilling prophecies 44 -self-sabotage 57 - social comparison 51
   • everyday apps p.60
   • for further thought and discussion p.61
   • assess your learning p.62