Deborah Tannen

Diapositiva 1

• Summarised “You Just Don’t Understand “ in an article

Diapositiva 2

• Status vs Support
• Independence vs Intimacy
• Advice vs Understanding
• Information vs Feelings
• Orders vs Proposal
• Conflict vs Compromise

Diapositiva 3

• Men - conversation is competitive
• Women - gain confirmation and support for their ideas

Diapositiva 4

• Men - focus on independence
• Women - closeness and support

Diapositiva 5

• Men - a complaint is a challenge to find a solution
• Women - women empathise and understand

Diapositiva 6

• Men - conversation conveys information
• Women - conversation expresses emotion

Diapositiva 7

• Note : the giving of information and brevity are considered of less value than sharing of emotion and elaboration

Diapositiva 8

• Men - prefer direct imperatives
• Women - suggest people do things

Diapositiva 9

• Men - enter into conflict
• Women - avoid expressing opposing views

Diapositiva 10

• Note: we assume male is the norm and women are expected to change, but if they do so they’re accused of being unfeminine/rude/bitchy (Dale Spender).

Diapositiva 11

• Men - get more airtime ; speak in public ; negotiate status ; speak one at a time ; speak asymmetrically.
• Women -talk too much ; speak in private contexts ; build relations ; overlap ; speak symmetrically

Diapositiva 12

• Cooperative overlap =/= competitive overlap =/= interruption

Diapositiva 13

• High involvement speakers - concerned to show enthusiastic support
• high considerateness speakers - more concerned with being considerate