Setting targets within the coaching experience:
Inorder to get somewhere, u need to know where ur going.
Alice in Wonderland:
Alice and the Cat: Quotes:
Alice in WonderlandAlice: Would you tell me, please, which way I
ought to go from here?The Cat: That depends a good deal on where you
want to get toAlice: I don't much care where.The Cat: Then
it doesn't much matter which way you go.
It’s essential for our clients to know where they want to get to, what
they want to achieve, some of our goals are put to us by other ppl or pressure
to ourselves trying to be something that wer not.
A postive goal will trigger something in ur brain RAS that will bring
coincidence into your pathway, if ur goal is exciting
the more difficult is helping them the sp point when their goal has been
reached. the more identifiable the measure the more inspiring the goal will be.
the goal is not trully motivting unless with a meausre. a common pitfall is that
the goal is more about the journey rather than the dewstination. ask a simple
Qs: ‘what will be the result of? ‘ what tangible difference?’ ‘ what do u want
to achieve by this’ ‘could u help me as ur coach how would i know when u get to
can ask for a comparitive measure: ‘as energetic as i was on 21’ ‘ what is the %
of u feeling good at urself?’ ‘ what would u like the % to be?’
goal like ‘reaching size 10’ not motivating enough throught the journey of
suffering and hunger but ud better say’ i would be shining in my new red
truly motivating goal is not trully motivating until it has the structure of a
clear measuring goal.
goal without a measure is a dream not a trget
clients tend to set goals that are limited to their self beliefs
all obstacles removed, what would ur goal be?’ ‘what is it that u really want?’
‘ what can u gie urself permission to achieve?’
‘can u tell me whats ur mission statement for life?’ ‘ is it urs or
someone elses’ ‘if not urs then whose is it?’ ‘ what do u know about ur mission
‘what would u like ur mission statemnt to be?’
what if ur client couldnt achieve his goal? it is hardly ever a problem.
because of the new discoveries of ur client alone the jorney. is just as
valuable as thier goal in the first place.
ideal period is 12 weeks: 6 weeks for old habbit and 6 to ingrain a new
if they see u once a month, then a 6 months goal would be more efective.
2 criteria of goal setting process
u have to find one focus that will cover all the others. if u cant, then u have
to divide the goal into several separate goals.
the client to consider roughly the pathway required for each goal. if the
actions in each pathway are similar, then the 2 goals can be one. but if
different, then ur looking in 2 separate goals. because each goal needs a single
(Briefly and clearly expressed) a goal of few words
act as a mantra (a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered
capable of "creating transformation) to be more encouraging, not to be hardly
memorable. short snapping goals are much more engaging in the RAS that anything
Difference between EXACT & SMART
SMART used often to set learning
objectives, but can result in –ve goal
client goals are often limited by lack of
confidence. no client will set a goal too high, hence the need for a model that
is exciting and challenging. but for managers in corporates, they aim high, so
the need for the element realistic.
the person being coached has to own the
Managers in corporates,
they aim high, so z need
for z element realistic.
Goals r often limited by
lack of confidence.hence
z need 4 a model thats
excitin & challengin
+ve goals trigger RAS
have u ever bought a new car and while
driving home u find all other cars just like ur car? RAS clicks in. 99 % of
everything that bombard u all the time allow u to notice only things that are
relative to u. if u identify goals attractive to u, the RAS will throw
if clients goal is to be in a dream career,
RAS will click in woth ur goals.
common technique for golfers, immagine
themselves hitting the ball, see the ball hitting th trget, applause from
spectators, mind cant diff fact and fiction.
imagine the winning shot, its easier to
immitate behaviour than to do it for the first time.
ask client to focus on future reality, wht
he will see, feel, reactions, forge neuro pathway for brain. help them to tap in