Social Skills Course

Social Skills Course

1. Social Skills Knowledge

   • Body Language
     • Eye Contact
     • Posture
       • Shoulders back
       • Chin up
       • Neck Tucked In
     • Smiling
       • So many people are walking around serious
     • Hand Gestures/Positioning
       • Shake/bump
       • Utilising Gestures in Convo
       • Waving
       • Avoid keeping them in pokets/ fidgeting
     • Slow, smooth movements
     • Head Movements
       • Nodding
       • Chin Up
     • Mirroring
       • Match the intensity of their energy
         • But understand if they are shy or just like that
     • walking
       • Avoid scraping shoes
       • Swagger
     • Listen More
       • Listen to understand, not to respond
       • Dont Just Listen, Also Acknowledge
     • Being loose and not tight (Authentic)
     • Breath
     • Facial expressions
       • Using Natural Facial Expressions in convo
     • Introverts: Need to be more commanding in their movements
       • Comanding + Smiling or Eye contact for too long + smiling = normal
   • Voice & Tone
     • Speaking Clearly
       • Volume
         • Speak with enough volume for setting
         • Finish scentences a little louder
       • Dont mumble
     • Avoiding filler words
     • Speak Slower
       • Not Too Slow
         • Leads to Interupting
     • Pausing
     • Vary Tone
       • Dont be too varying (fake)
       • Dont be Monotone
     • Ending on a Low
     • Dont rush your scentences
       • Especially when put on the spot
   • Maturity
     • Avoid Gen Z/ Alpha Terms
     • Avoid Swearing
     • Know when to be Serious vs Casual
   • You MUST approach
   • BE HAPPY GUY
     • People love positivity and it comunicates safety
     • Its magnetic
     • Why be serious all the time
     • Know when to be serious ie deeper conversations
   • Confidence Alone vs With boys
     • All the pranksters they have seen is not real life

2. Conversations

   • Dumb Down
     • Understand Jokes
   • Opening Conversations
     • Pointing the obvious/situational openers
     • Questions
     • Compliments
   • Holding Conversations
     • Questions & Assumptions
       • Even Mix
       • Dont ask booring questions like "Hows Work/Life"
     • Energy
       • Laugh
       • Joke
         • Depending on Situation
       • Tonality
     • Expand on what they say
     • Questions, assumptions + Personal things
   • Authenticity
     • Asking what you find interesting
     • Don't stick to the script
     • Helps filter compatible people
     • Say what you want
     • Your best friend is that which there is minimal filter
     • Admit when you dont know something
     • Be leading the conversation
       • Actively
   • Conversational Vines
     • This is how not to dry
   • Conversational Lexicon
     • Improved through Practice (Big introvert issue)
   • Ending Conversations
     • Ending if Uninterested or closed person
       • Great talking to you, Ill let you be/go
     • If interested
       • Exchange Contacts
   • Interest Level
     • Check their interest in chatting via social skills knowledge
     • Dont be hurt, they are just socially weird/unopen/going through something
     • Know when to leave
   • Small talk -> Deeper Conversations
     • Link to authenticity, you don't have to make small talk to get to deeper conversations!
     • Ties with Authenticity
   • Awkward Silence
     • First Few times there will be more
     • Gets better as you practice
     • Its Ok
     • Remember they are also feeling Awkward
       • If you accept it, and just look at them, sometimes they will continue the convo
     • Shows Compatibility
     • Some people are just not as open or trusting
       • You wouldnt like to be their friend anyway
   • Awkward Moments
     • Acknowledge slip ups via laughing
       • Stutters etc
       • Everyone has awkward moments
       • No such thing as a perfect convo
   • You are allowed to think before you speak
   • Listening
     • Listen and Acknowledge "Yeah, oh"
     • Eye Contact
       • No such thing as Too Much
       • Only look away when you have to
       • Only look into their eyes
         • Else its weird for them
     • Posture/Hands
       • Use hands in Convo
       • Avoid Fidgeting and Looking Around
   • Extra
     • Remember their names
     • People want to be heard
       • Difficult conversations - listen first, then respond
     • People dont want advice most of the time
   • Responding
     • Respond Naturally
       • Dont stick to script
         • Say what you think
           • Big issue with introverts, Speech filter
   • Disrespect
     • In your circle/common
       • Point it out, dont smile, direct eye contact
         • People usually stop
         • No back and forth
         • Hey, I find that disrespectful, dont say X again
         • Stop hanging around them
         • Dont associate with them anymore, any friendship is now over
           • Wont be the same again
     • Randoms
       • Just walk away
         • No need to sit there and take it
   • Talking to Boys vs Girls
     • Treat them the same
     • Im not a dating coach
     • You wouldnt flirt with every girl
   • You never have to answer straight away
     • Think before you speak
       • Improves with lexicon
         • Lexicon and Common Knowledge about things so you can converse with anyone
   • Talk about old men / old people
   • Maybe talk about what they have seen online with the pranksters

3. Confidence/Mindset

   • Overthinking/Hesitation
     • Aggressive Approach Method
     • Smile and think of something funny
     • Improves only through continual approaching
     • Just saying something is the hardest part
     • Longer you wait, worse it gets
   • Fear of Judgement
     • Nobody Cares
       • Neither should you
   • Fear of Rejection
     • Only Do Your Half
   • Appearance
     • Looking good helps but not the way you think
     • Be consistently Improving
     • Ok to be where you are as long as your improving
     • Everyone starts somewhere
     • What happens today, what you look like today, is nothing in the grand scheme
       • Once you stop caring about yourself, will you start caring about others "Your an introvert because your Selfish"
     • Your not you, your the player mindset
   • Purpose
     • Helps to have something worth more
     • Always be goal oriented when out for improvement
   • Your a confident young man
   • Feel like you own the world, understand you could be dead right now

4. Social skills is about learning, you have just been so into your own self that you never looked at what is and isn’t ok to do