WEEK 1

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IDEAL SELF

It is the self that you aspire to be. It is the one you hope will possess characteristics similar to that of a mentor or some other worldly figure.

ACTUAL SELF

The one that you actually see. It is the self that has characteristics that you were nurtured or in some cases, born to have.

Is built on self-knowledge.

SELF-CONCEPT

Refers to your awareness of yourself.

SELF - IMAGE

The actual self can be seen by others, but because we have no way of truly knowing how others view us, the actual self is our self – image.

SELF-KNOWLEDGE

Is derived from social interaction that provides insight into how others react to you.

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NEGOTIATION

That exists between the two selves which is complex because there are numerous exchanges between ideal self and actual self.

SOCIAL ROLES

That are adjusted and re-adjusted and are derived from outcomes of social interactions from infant to adult development.

CONGRUENCE

Alignment is important. If the way that I am (actual self) is aligned with the way that I want to be (ideal self), then I will feel a sense of mental well – being or peace of mind.

ACTUAL SELF = IDEAL SELF

MENTAL WELL – BEING or PEACE OF MIND

INCONGRUENCE

If the way that I am not aligned with how I want to be, the incongruence, or lack of alignment, will result in mental distress or anxiety.

The greater the level of incongruence between ideal self and real self, the greater the level of resulting distress.

ACTUAL SELF ≠ IDEAL SELF

MENTAL DISTRESS or ANXIETY

PERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS

This means making use of all the personal resources – talent, skills, energy, and time to enable you to achieve life goals.

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TALENT

Are needed to be identified and then developed to be used in a particular subject area (science, literature, sports, politics, etc.).

EXPERIENCE

It includes knowledge and skills that we acquire in the process of cognitive and practical activities.

KNOWLEDGE

It is required for setting goals, defining an action plan to achieve them and risk assessment.

SKILLS

Determine whether real actions are performed in accordance with the plan.

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SKILLS THAT WILL GREATLY INCREASE THE EFFICIENCY OF ANY PERSON

1. DETERMINATION

FOCUS only on achieving a specific goal without being distracted by less important things or spontaneous desires.

Developed: self-discipline exercise.

2. SELF-CONFIDENCE

It appears in the process of personal development, as a result of getting aware of yourself, your actions, and their consequences.

3. PERSISTENCE

KEEP MOVING FORWARD regardless of emerging obstacles – problems, laziness, bad emotional state, etc.

Developed: self-discipline exercise. “Learn yourself and your capabilities” RIGHT ACTIONS + RIGHT GOAL = SUCCESS!!!

4. MANAGING STRESS

It helps combat stress that arises in daily life from the environment and other people.

Stress arises from the uncertainty in an unknown situation when a lack of information creates the risk of negative consequences of your actions.

5. PROBLEM-SOLVING SKILLS

They help cope with the problems encountered with a lack of experience. It increases efficiency by adopting new ways of achieving goals when obtaining a new experience.

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6. CREATIVITY

It allows you to find extraordinary ways to carry out a specific action that no one has tried to use.

7. GENERATING IDEAS

It helps you achieve goals using new, original, unconventional ideas.

Idea – the mental image of an object formed by the human mind.

Mental maps - materialize, visualize and scrutinize all your ideas, which in turn contributes to the emergence of new ideas.

THREE KINDS OF PEOPLE IN THIS WORLD

1. MOVIEGOER

This person watches the movie of their lives, admires some parts, and criticizes others.

Are the most pathetic, miserable people in this world.

2. ACTOR

This person does not only watch the movie of her life. She actually realizes she’s the Actor – and can control a big part of her life.

3. SCRIPTWRITER

This person does not only watch, and she doesn’t only act, but she actually creates the entire movie from her mind.

She determines what she will say, what she will do and how the movie will end.

-OPEN AREA-

KNOWN BY SELF AND OTHERS

-UNKNOWN AREA-

UNKOWN BY SELF AND OTHERS

-HIDDEN AREA-

KNOWN BY SELF, UNKOWN TO OTHERS

-BLIND SPOTS-

UNKOWN BY SELF, KNOWN TO OTHERS

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THE POWER OF JOURNAL WRITING: UNFOLDING YOUR PERSONAL JOURNEY

IT IS COST – EFFICIENT AND AVAILABLE

IT IS PREVENTIVE AND PRO - ACTIVE

IT IS CREATIVE AND PRODUCTIVE

IT IS PERSONAL AND PRIVATE