OUAM Week 1

OUAM Week 1

1. 3 problems we run into when marriage is your answer

2. You compromise more than you should

   • Gen 29.18
   • thier culture this is what they did
   • but Jacob offer 4x's what he should
   • I'll do ANYTHING for her
   • not as healthy as it may seem.
   • i.e. the girl who will do anything...the guy who will buy everything..

3. you become overly demanding

   • Gen. 29.21
   • He put in his time
   • do u see the shallowness?
   • I did my part, now it's time for her to do hers
   • this is actually very a disrepectful approach
   • rather than being a covenant of selflessness...
   • marriage erodes into contract of selfish services

4. you always end up dissatisfied

   • when demands are placed, expectations rise, and dissatisfaction is emminent
     • Gen. 29.23
   • this is what happens when u think your spouse is going 2 meet ur needs
   • but Leah was doing the same thing
   • addest part of the whole story (Gen. 29.31-32)
   • 3 boys later & no love

5. intro

   • Gen 29
   • reality is love/marriage is messed up in our culture!
   • survey
     • ladies - how many dreamed of...
     • guys - how many dreamed of...
     • how many married r still dreaming? :)
   • today, we're gonna look at a story of love/marriage is this messed up
   • context (separate sheet)
   • pick up story in Gen. 29. 16-17
     • focus is on Rachel's beauty
   • my life is empty, if I can find the one, then I will find happiness/fulfillment

6. Take home

   • to be fulfilled you need to find the 1
     • the 4th boy was different (35)
     • Judah is significant - Jesus!
     • God took something that didn't start right...
     • ur marriage may not have started right, but...
   • When 2 r seeking 1, anything is possible
   • if married - grab hands and pray "God, teach us to make you our 1"
   • if single - covenant with God to make Him ur 1 & future spouse 2

7. what/who has been missing in this whole story?