Oskar Schindler -
known as a
gambler, drinker
and womanizer
before his acts of
heroism during
World War 2,
where he risked
his life to save
1200 Jews.
PROSOCIAL
BEHAVIOUR - doing
something good for
someone or society. it
builds relationships and
allows society to
function by: obeying
the rules, conforming
to socially accepted
behaviour and
cooperating.
HELPING is the most
typical idea of prosocial
behaviour, however this is
just an added bonus of
prosocial behaviour. heroic
acts are rare. FOLLOWING
RULES IS ESSENTIAL,
HELPING ISN'T.
obedience and conformity can
be bad, mindless obedience to a
demented leader can produce all
sorts of terrible consequences.
for the most part however
obedience and conformity are
good things as society would
collapse otherwise
RULE OF LAW - society where
people respect and follow the
rules have an effective rule of
law. if rule of law had broken
down you would find life hard
and dangerous.
VEENHOVEN -
2004 - positive
correlation between
rule of law and
happiness.
ORGAN - 1988
- GOOD
SOLDIER
SYNDROME -
people behave
better when they
think the rules
are fair.
SATOW - 1975 -
public
circumstances
promote prosocial
behaviour, wanting
to make a good
impression, one
way mirror vs. no
one watching,
donated 7 times
MORE in PUBLIC
COND.
RECIPROCITY -
the obligation to
return in kind what
another has done
for us
TRIANDIS -
1978 -
reciprocity
norms are
found in all
cultures of
the world
reciprocity
is also
found in
animal
species
reciprocity is so powerful
that it even applies to
situations where no one
asks for a favour.
KUNZ AND WOOLCOTT -
1976 - received christmas
cards in return when they
sent them to strangers. sent
578, got back 117, none of
the receivers knew who he
was.
helping or not has
an impact on one's
reputation within
the group.
people's willingness to request
of accept help often depends
on whether they think they can
pay it back or not, elderly
people often refuse help
because they don't think they
will be able to pay it back.
FAIRNESS -
PEOPLE DESIRE A
SYSTEM BASED ON
FAIRNESS AND
SOCIAL EXCHANGE
NORMS are standards
established by society
to tell its members what
behaviours are typical
and expected.
EQUITY = each
person receives
benefits in
PROPORTION to
what he / she has
contributed.
EQUALITY =
everyone gets the
SAME amount.
BUSS - 1999 - ability to
reproduce largely depends
on a person's position
within the group. a person
must invest time / energy
into building relationships
with others.
need fairness so have
value to other people in
order to reproduce and
avoid depression - ALLEN
ET AL - 2003
FILIBERTI ET AL - 2001 -
humans are unique in that
they commit suicide, one
reason is because people
feel they are a burden on
others. however there are
huge negative effects for
the people left behind.
SUICIDES have the same
concern with being fair and
reciprocal. if they cannot
reciprocate they feel
worthless / burden.
UNFAIRNESS
OUTPERFORMING OTHERS
provides mixed emotions, sense of
pride but a worry those we
outperformed will reject us. known
as SENSITIVITY ABOUT BEING
THE TARGET OF A THREATENING
UPWARD COMPARISON - EXLINE
ET AL - 1999
UNDERBENEFITED
- getting less than
you deserve
UNDERBENEFITED - DE WAAL
AND DAVIS - 2003 - monkeys were
rewarded cucumber if they returned
a rock, the researchers randomly
gave some of the monkeys grapes
(better). the monkeys who only got
the cucumber got angry and
progressed.
OVERBENEFITED
- getting more than
you deserve
(UNIQUELY
HUMAN)
people feel guilty when
overbenefited. people
who harm others prefer
to do something nice for
the person they harm,
they prefer the nice act
to exactly match the
harm they did so fairness
is restored - BERSCHEID
AND WALSTER - 1967
SURVIVOR GUILT - LIFTON -
1967 - people feel bad for living
through terrible experiences in
which others / loved ones died.
BROCKNER ET AL - 1985
- people who keep their jobs
during a company firing
other people feel guilty.
COOPERATION
cooperation is
based on
reciprocity.
cooperating is
vital for social
groups to
succeed.
PRISONER'S
DILEMMA, choose
between a
cooperative act and
another act that
combines being
defensive / selfish /
competitive. if one
pair not cooperative
then cooperation is
doomed. what is best
for everyone VS.
what is best for one.
BEGGAN - 1988 -
cooperators see the
prisoner's dilemma as
good vs. bad. whereas
competitors see it as
weak vs. strong
non-zero-sum
game =
prisoner's
dilemma.
zero-sum-game
= either you win
or not.
two virtuous people
can do well by
eachother, but if
either one plays
selfishly then
cooperation is
destroyed. when both
lean towards
competition, no one
does well.
cooperation is easily
destroyed. across most
species, competition is
the norm and cooperation
is rare. humans are better
at cooperating than
animals.
STEINFATT - 1973 -
successful
cooperation depends
on communication/
FORGIVENESS
forgiveness is
ceasing to feel
anger towards
someone who
has wronged
you.
if someone does something
bad to you, the person owes
you a kind of debt,
forgiveness releases the
person from this debt.
FENELL - 1993 -
forgiveness helps repair
relationships so they
can continue their lives.
FINKEL ET AL - 2002 -
the more strongly
committed to someone,
the more likely we are to
forgive them.
PALEARI ET AL - 2005 -
forgiveness leads to a
better relationship. a
good relationship /
satisfaction does not
predict forgiveness.
forgiveness
has health
benefits to both
parties. -
COYLE - 1997
downside of forgiveness
being that it invites to offend
again. HOWEVER this is not
the case as people who have
wronged seek to do more
good in future.
forgiveness can
prevent a
destructive pattern
in a relationship
where grudges can
escalate.
FORGIVENESS IS MORE LIKELY when
an offense is minor and when the offender
apologises.more easily forgive when you
think you could have committed a similar
thing. - EXLINE ET AL - 2008
religious
people, people
committed to
a relationship
and people
who are not
self-centered
are more likely
to forgive.