Coaching

Coaching

1. What's on your mind?

   • Potential 2nd Q
     • People
       • Team
       • Stakeholders
       • Customers
     • Project
     • Process/Patterns

2. And What Else

   • 3-5 times
   • wait till "nothing else"
   • Usage types
     • What else could you do?
     • What else might be possible
   • Excercise
     • Observe: How quickly you offer advise

3. What's the real challenge for you

   • 3 Issues
     • many probs
       • If you need to pick one, which one here would be a real challenge for you?
     • Coaching Ghost
       • I think I undertsand some of what's going on with..., What's the real challenge here for you
     • Abstract/General
       • I have a sense of overall challenge. What's the real challenge here for you

4. What do you want

   • We often dont know what we want
   • Needs vs Wants
     • Max-neef's Needs
       • Affection
         • Family & Friends
       • Freedom
         • Autonomy
       • Participation
         • responsibility
       • Creation
         • Skills
       • Identity
         • Sense of belonging
       • Protection
         • Insurance
       • Idleness
         • games
       • Understanding
         • Rationality
       • Subsistence
         • Shelter, Food, Work
   • Influence - TERA
     • TRIBE
       • Are you with me or are you against me
     • EXPECTATION
       • Do I know the future or don’t I?
     • RANK
       • Are you more important or less important than I am?
     • AUTONOMY
       • Do I get a say or don’t I?
   • Miracle Question
     • When you get up in the morning tomorrow, how will you know that things have suddenly got better

5. How can I help

   • Use Phrases
     • Out of curiosity
     • Just so I know
     • To help me understand better
     • To make sure I am clear
   • Give Time
     • Formulate Answer
   • Get out of Drama Triangle
   • Tone is Imp
   • Answers
     • Yes
     • No
     • No, but I could do
     • Let me think about that

6. What will you say "NO"to

   • Cover Basics
     • Peope
     • Projects
     • patterns
   • Yes more slowly
     • What do you want me to take off my plate so that I can do this?
     • what part would you have me to do
     • Why are you asking me
     • Whom else you have asked
   • Stay Curious

7. What's most useful for you

   • Triggers Retention

8. SILENCE

   • LISTEN
     • ACKNOWLEDGE